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Have you ever given it a thought, how all these people, who were strangers yesterday people became your friends today?How do friendships develop, this is an interesting field of research. So I have just done some research, it is nothing new, but is exciting to know,how relationships are formed.

Necessity is the mother of all inventions, does hold true in this case also, Necessity is the mother of all friendships.

Almost all friendships start this way( about 99.9%). The necessity can be yours or this newly found acquaintance of yours. Let us think about some situations where friendships form.

Case 1

You are at a party, none of your relatives or acquaintances are at the party. You have nothing to do, everything just seems to be boring, so you have 3 options.

1. Go and join a group or join someone for a talk

2. Wish that someone, who feels as lonely as you, came to talk with you.

3.Just stand and enjoy the party in your own way, leave when it is over.

So out of these 3 options, you will have made friends if you followed the first two.

Case 2

A need arises, and no one is there to help you, when this person comes by your side and help you out.

Consider this situation:

You get into a road traffic accident and people at the accident site blame you a lot as you have caused the accident, you wish” Oh! Someone help me out of this”.No one emerges and you are a desperate man, when someone comes out from the crowd and saves you from the crowd. You are so thankful to the man, and it grows into a good friendship.

Case 3

You know this person for long and doesn’t even care to look in his direction, you absolutely dislike this guy because you dont like the way he behaves. So this goes on for years until one fine morning a need arises, you need a room to stay, and no one else is having a room to share, but this guy does. You think a lot, and decides to approach him,because there is no other way. A mutual understanding develops and it may turn into two options:

1. You discover that your assumptions were wrong. Actually this guy is a nice one, and behaves to you in a friendly way. You enjoy a lot, cracking jokes, playing games and so on. So you decide to get rid of the old impression you had, and become good friends with him.

2. You recognize that this man is so worse than you thought he was. No way you can stay with him, so you just get out of his room as soon as possible.

Case 4

Friend of your friend becomes your friend.

At the movie theater you meet a friend of your friend, while you are with your friend!. So there is no way to escape other than get introduced to the new friend. You stay with him for a while, and recognize that he is a good guy and decides that, it would be nice to have such a friend. You meet up later and get each others phone numbers and stay in touch.

Many more case scenarios exist, but this post will go on wthout end,on mentioning all those.These cases have a common factor, necessity.

Necessity is the mother of all friendships.